It takes one decision


My husband sent me roses today. They smell and look so beautiful! It’s our anniversary. Seven years of bliss. Okay, we all know it wasn’t total bliss. ha! To our credit, though, and God’s grace and mercy, we’ve made it this far. We have had highs and lows, but I like to think somewhere in the middle we flourish and sustain.

That said, I was thinking about this concept of “one decision” the other day.

A woman recently left a newborn baby one mile from a police station in Massachusetts. And now they’re gone; the mom disappeared into the crowd and a baby girl will be buried. That one mile boils down to a single decision she made — one decision that has changed a community and many lives.

I just stopped as I read the article and thought about the enormity of that. One mile.So many of us would have ran barefoot in any kind of weather to reach that child, to reach that mother and love them; it was just a mile. I’m not very fast, so many of you could have made it even faster than me! ((That’s a joke!))

It was a intentional, one decision we made to get married seven years ago. It wasn’t an easy one for us. Our marriage didn’t start with wine and roses as many do. We had to make a line in the sand and commit to each other.


At our reception, a few months after the wedding!

Each morning as I drop the kids off at the sitter’s, we say a prayer for our day before I take them into the house. Today, I prayed for our marriage, for our family and for that one decision that has brought these two children into our lives. I prayed they knew how much we loved them and in those valleys of marriage, when it’s just so hard, that they realize we will stay committed, for them and for us. We will honor each other and our vows. I prayed that in the days of prosperity and the times we look into each other’s eyes like we were 25 again, that the kids still will realize what it takes to have those happy moments and the commitment of that one decision.

And today I pray for this mother. I hope she forgives herself; I hope she knows God forgives her, but I also hope we can stop these one decisions from being such sad, desperate ones.

If you’ve ever made that one life-changing, horribly stressful, challenging decision, you get it. You know what it’s like to say, “jump” and know looking back is not an option. You know what it’s like to be broken and scared. You know what it’s like to have to put all your money on love and hope that God knows what the heck he’s doing, because you sure don’t.

No monumental decision is ever simple. If you truly love, it can’t be simple because you care for others as yourself.You know that family means taking risks and following God’s will, even when it’s not your own or what others think you should do. I like to think this mom just panicked, that she didn’t realize the implications. I don’t know. I do know we have the responsibility to keep talking and helping those like her make that one decision a wise choice. I hope someday this mom becomes the voice behind the Safe Haven movement, guiding other women who are in the middle of making the decision she did. We each have choices after all, and in a mere second, what decision we make can change the course of life as we know it.

Happy Anniversary Jonas. I can’t say it’s been what I expected, but I can say it’s been more than I could have dreamed. You and I have a lot to be proud of and when we look back on that one decision,  no matter the highs or lows of the day, I know it was the right one. I love you.

Colossians 3:14 “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”


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